Mental Health Study | Helping a Friend Considering Suicide or Self-harm
IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, CALL 911 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.
Suicides have been steadily increasing this century. When someone you love is struggling, navigating suicide and self-harm takes intentionality and wisdom to have a serious conversation. These can be challenging moments to navigate and show up well, but here are some warning signs to look out for if someone in your life is considering harming themself.
• Talking about killing or hurting themselves
• Sudden change in behavior; happier or calmer
• Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
• Giving things away, such as prized possessions
• Withdrawing or feeling isolated
When someone you love is wrestling with self-harm or suicide, the first step is showing up for them as a safe place. You don't have to come prepared with all kinds of ideas; just show up as a listener and friend. The next step is asking four simple questions without judgment but with curiosity and love:
Have you thought about killing yourself?
Do you have a plan?
Do you have the means?
Do you have an intent on killing yourself?
If the answer to that last question is "Yes," you need to get them help immediately. Call 911 or take them to the emergency room immediately. Sometimes, people aren't okay, and getting extra help is okay to ensure they are safe.
Often, people who take their lives don't want to die – they want to stop hurting. Suicide prevention starts with recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously. You might be afraid to bring up the subject, but talking openly about suicidal thoughts can save a life. Listen intently, persuade them to get help, and stick with them as they navigate this diffcult season.